That Zen Thing
Guest Post By: Adam Bentley Clausen (SPW Co-Founder, Ro’s Mister)
Contrary to popular opinion I am NOT a Zen Master….I do NOT have total control over all of my emotions every single minute of every single day. I DO get frustrated….I DO get pissed-off…I DO get hurt feelings…And I DO get disappointed…But unlike most people I don’t dwell on those feelings or permit them to dictate my actions.
So to answer the recurring question “Am I really like this ALL of the time?” the answer is…Well, ALMOST all the time. I still have my “moments” where I briefly lose my cool but they’re infrequent, fleeting, and somewhat tempered. Nowadays my actions tend to be much more thoughtful and deliberate….I’m much more aware of and concerned about everyone else’s feelings and take them into consideration BEFORE I act.
For the majority of my life I lived primarily with the intention of satisfying all my own whims and desires. Rarely, if ever, did I seriously take the time to consider how my actions were going to affect anyone else. However, all that changed the day that the FBI threatened my Dad and his wife in connection with this criminal case. It never should have required such a traumatic event to open my eyes to the far reaching repercussions of MY actions but unfortunately it did…I cannot change the past but I CAN ensure that it never happens again. I STILL frequently find myself apologizing to my Mom, my Dad, my family, my friends and so many other people whose lives I adversely affected over the years with my thoughtless and selfish ways.
This is the man that I have become…I say the things I mean and I do the things I say. My lifestyle finally accurately reflects my core values and beliefs…and no matter “where” I may reside, whether I am in here or out there, that will not ever change. I’m genuinely “happy” now that I am living this way and only wish that I could have come to this realization much earlier in life with much less hardship upon myself and those I care about. I sincerely hope that you too are living the life you want and deserve…Keep striving to find more Health, Love & Happiness each day….A
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